Maybe some people are cherishers by birth .Maybe there are some people who find happiness in helping others. Maybe others do it to fill in a void. Not all cherishers are saints, not all saints are cherishers
“Making” and “trying” to make someone else happy can indeed become a chore if one defines it in that way. The title is a good one….especially in this age of Covid. I’ve been so thankful, every day of these challenging times, that I married my best friend. Just sitting next to each other on a couch…or him being in our bedroom at his desk and me being in the study at mine, we are comfortable with each other. Perhaps that might be the key to happiness with another, now that I ponder it….which your post has motivated me to do (the sign of a good writer when the reader is motivated to connect with the piece and take a leap)….Perhaps the key to happiness with another is feeling comfortable with that person across all spectrums of occurences?
Glad you posted!
‘Is Everybody Happy?’ makes me think of warm-up artists, comedians and the like, at a dismal show, and the way some people try to make you happy when you’re not. I think that, if we are happy in ourselves, it rubs off on others.
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Christine Bolton
November 3, 2020 at 8:25 am
Yes that’s true Kim although some people can drain you of your own happiness 😕
Seems like a lot of times people turn to movies, books, and tv to become voyeurs to happiness (and all sorts of other, less wholesome things.) I wonder where it all will lead 🙁
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Christine Bolton
November 2, 2020 at 11:12 pm
I think the confinement due to Covid is the culprit. I’m not sure that being with someone 24/7 is always a good thing 😬
Christine, this is a beautiful poem and this is a take on the prompt that I just really love. It’s very important to put yourself first and your happiness. Being someone else’s happiness, sure it sounds great for them, but echoing your poem “Where is your happiness?”
I feel this represents those that live for others and not just themselves–that they may make others happy, but they are not happy themselves, or they are not putting themselves first. It’s never selfish to put yourself first. At times, the only person to fall back on is ourselves.
Excellent poem and thoughts.
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Christine Bolton
November 10, 2020 at 9:09 am
Oh dear this too was in Spam 😕 Yes Lucy, it is so hard sometimes to consider your own happiness when you are caring for a loved one. It’s not a matter of being subservient, it is more of a moral duty to care for someone elses’s health. In these cases your own happiness often falls by the wayside. They are unable to put themselves first for obvious reasons 😢
Thank you, as always Lucy, for your kind and comforting words 🥰
And not all receivers are saints, yet they are cherished! We could go on forever 🙂 Thanks for commenting Ian.
Maybe some people are cherishers by birth .Maybe there are some people who find happiness in helping others. Maybe others do it to fill in a void. Not all cherishers are saints, not all saints are cherishers
I think this is all too common… someone else has to care to make someone else happy. Draining yourself to fill his void.
You are absolutely right Bjorn.
You are truly blessed in your marriage Lillian. It is a rare and wonderful thing and I am happy for you! ☺️🥰 thank you for your kind comments.
Nice work, CB. I think we’re on the same page today…
You are truly blessed in your marriage Lillian. It is a rare and wonderful thing and I am happy for you! ☺️🥰 thank you for your kind comments.
Thanks Ron. I agree! It’s not all puppies and pixie dust 😚
“Making” and “trying” to make someone else happy can indeed become a chore if one defines it in that way. The title is a good one….especially in this age of Covid. I’ve been so thankful, every day of these challenging times, that I married my best friend. Just sitting next to each other on a couch…or him being in our bedroom at his desk and me being in the study at mine, we are comfortable with each other. Perhaps that might be the key to happiness with another, now that I ponder it….which your post has motivated me to do (the sign of a good writer when the reader is motivated to connect with the piece and take a leap)….Perhaps the key to happiness with another is feeling comfortable with that person across all spectrums of occurences?
Glad you posted!
‘Is Everybody Happy?’ makes me think of warm-up artists, comedians and the like, at a dismal show, and the way some people try to make you happy when you’re not. I think that, if we are happy in ourselves, it rubs off on others.
Yes that’s true Kim although some people can drain you of your own happiness 😕
We must always take care of and value our own happiness!
I agree with that Ingrid.
Exactly Ingrid or else we will do as you did in your poem! ☺️
😅
Trying to make others happy becomes a chore with time.
Yes and we are not always successful 😕
Hardly for long.
Seems like a lot of times people turn to movies, books, and tv to become voyeurs to happiness (and all sorts of other, less wholesome things.) I wonder where it all will lead 🙁
I think the confinement due to Covid is the culprit. I’m not sure that being with someone 24/7 is always a good thing 😬
I think you’re right on both counts.
Christine, this is a beautiful poem and this is a take on the prompt that I just really love. It’s very important to put yourself first and your happiness. Being someone else’s happiness, sure it sounds great for them, but echoing your poem “Where is your happiness?”
I feel this represents those that live for others and not just themselves–that they may make others happy, but they are not happy themselves, or they are not putting themselves first. It’s never selfish to put yourself first. At times, the only person to fall back on is ourselves.
Excellent poem and thoughts.
Oh dear this too was in Spam 😕 Yes Lucy, it is so hard sometimes to consider your own happiness when you are caring for a loved one. It’s not a matter of being subservient, it is more of a moral duty to care for someone elses’s health. In these cases your own happiness often falls by the wayside. They are unable to put themselves first for obvious reasons 😢
Thank you, as always Lucy, for your kind and comforting words 🥰
You are so right… trying to be happiness for someone else never seems to work! It must come from within ourselves.
Yes that is so true Dwight ☺️