We Are One – Really?

Posted byChristine BoltonPosted inBlog, QuestioningTags:, , , , 
Are we truly missing a piece
that only a lover can bring
to make us whole?
Who is to say?
Do we not function properly on our own?
We still love, still give, and still grieve
As individuals

Colors become mixed
Creating a new color of compromise
Sharing lives is hypnotic
but can change who we are
Negotiation and forfeiture come into play
Your life could become their life to direct

Free spirits live without permission 
Alone or together
One does not become the master of the other
The more superior of the two
Or the lesser of the two

Is togetherness double the pleasure
Or half the joy?
Singly we are unshackled to revel in what we love
Freely and without constraint or concession
We are individuals and are loved for who we are

Can we not be happy by ourselves without the other being upset?
Who wants selfish love?


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I have been writing poetry since I was a child and it has helped in the good times and bad times. I am always looking within to find the answers to life's problems and to write thought-provoking poetry and prose. Thanks for checking it out. Christine

41 thoughts on “We Are One – Really?”

    1. Thanks Violet. This is what happens when you stop giving yourself completely to someone who does not reciprocate at the same level. You realize you really don’t need to give that much and frankly why should you?
      You can be happy together but remember not to lose yourself in the process. It took me a long time to figure it out 🫤

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  4. This is wonderful and deep, Christine! I love all of the questions you pose and it is difficult sometimes to know how it will be one way or the other.

    Some crave independence while other wish for co-dependency. It is a very mixed bag!

    I love the question posed here:

    Is togetherness double the pleasure
    Or half the joy?

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  7. Christine, if ever there was a definition of “it’s complicated” this is it. I think some are suited to it and some are not. That said, it would be nice if each person could find their compatible soul mate. Hope you are enjoying your Friday.

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    1. Thank you Nancy. After reading The Prophet by Khalil Gilbran everything started to make sense to me. This is one of his beautiful quotes.

      Love one another, but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
      ❤️

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  11. “Is togetherness double the pleasure
    Or half the joy?”

    Sigh … so much to love and ponder upon in this poem, Christine. Stunning write ❤️❤️

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    1. So kind Sanaa. Thank you. I wrote it last year and I thought I would get a lot of push back so I didn’t post it until now. I was wrong I am happy to say ☺️❤️

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  12. Excellent questions to ask. Sometimes love can be too dependent and we lose ourselves, but there are so many perspectives to ponder here. Nice write!

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  17. Hi Christine, I really enjoyed reviewing your poem. It raises important questions about love, independence, and identity in a way that feels both thoughtful and direct. The way you challenge conventional ideas without dismissing them makes the poem especially compelling.

    I regularly review poetry, both past and present, and I’ve shared your poem here. I hope it reaches more readers who will appreciate the depth of what you’ve written. Looking forward to reading more of your work. Keep writing and exploring these themes—your perspective is refreshing. Best, Adam

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    1. Adam, thank you for your kind words and sharing my poem. I have always questioned committed partnerships and struggled to get the answers that made sense to me. That is until I read The Prophet by Kahlil Gibran. Then everything became clear and I realized the problem was not with me or my husband(s). It was about losing our individuality and wrestling with society’s vision of what a partnership should look like. I highly recommend it. We are never too old to learn are we?

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